This week we’re featuring another amazing guest post with Bari Tessler who is is a Financial Therapist, Mentor Coach, Mama-preneur, and a dear friend. I’m so honored to have Bari share some of her money insights with you and she’s even included a very special interview filled with incredible content on Money Practices and how to start crafting them on a practical, emotional, psychological and spiritual level…
For most of my life, money and I were not on speaking terms.
Back in my twenties, I was a full-on creative, African dancer, authentic movement, somatic psychotherapist-in-training gal. I could talk to you about the deepest emotions. The most taboo of topics. The spiritual aspects of anything under the sun. Anything — except money.
It’s not that I had a “bad” relationship with money. I just had no relationship with it.
Bank statements would arrive in the mail … and I’d toss ‘em directly into the trash. (What do people DO with these, anyway?!)
But, somewhere along the way, I surprised everyone (most of all, myself!) and fell in love with money practices.
Flash-forward two decades. Today, I’m leading a global conscious money movement called The Art of Money. I’ve guided thousands of individuals, couples, and creative entrepreneurs into more honest and loving relationships with money.
When I became an entrepreneur, and opened my private practice as a therapist and coach, I had to create a whole new relationship with money.
I quickly learned that I would need to look this “money” thing directly in the eye. Setting my rates, paying my taxes, reaching out for accounting help — all of this “money stuff” dredged up deep issues: from self-worth and boundaries to shame and autonomy … and even spirituality and sexuality.
I hear this over and over again from creative entrepreneurs in my community. Running our own business brings all of that “money stuff” up to the surface, forcing us to deal with it in new, deeper ways.
Back in my twenties, I had some beautiful self-care skills, deepened through creative dance, yoga, hiking, and spiritual practice into my money relationship.
Everything shifted for me when I realized that I could bring all of those tools I had for spiritual depth and self love — deepened through creative dance, yoga, hiking, and spiritual practice — into my money relationship.
So I brought ritual to my money practice. I lit candles, spritzed essential oils, and nibbled dark chocolate. I brought in my authenticity, deep meaning, intuition, and playfulness. Working with money became a practice of mindfulness and empowerment, compassion and connection.
It didn’t happen overnight. It took a lotta baby steps and love. And, like everyone, I still have my growing edges with money. But now, I count it as one of my fundamental self-care practices — right up there with my daily hike.
Like any other self-care practice, our money practice is an ongoing, evolving dance. We can nurture this area of our lives in different ways and levels on a daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly basis. Money is a “life garden” that needs to be watered and loved, regularly — not too much, and not too little.
Ready to get started, in your own life?
Listen to my interview with Sara Avant Stover: Introduction to Money as a Self-Care Practice.
In this beautiful conversation, Sara and I talk about:
- What “money as a self-care practice” means — and why it’s important
- The key principles to any self-care practice, including money (hint: it’s NOT harsh discipline)
- The most basic tool for any Money Practice, and how to do it
- The 3 levels of a Money Practice, and what they involve
- My “3 T’s” of bringing spirit into a money practice — and how my teachings on money and spirituality have changed since I entered my 40’s.
Sara is the Queen of self-care practices. She’s a yogini, author of the bestseller The Way of the Happy Woman, and a dear friend. Together, we let our hair down and talk about what it really takes to nurture this area of our lives.
Tell me in the comments: What would you love to bring into your money practice? (Or what do you already do, and find helpful?) Chocolate? Candles? A purring cat? We’d love to hear!
Bari Tessler Linden, M.A. believes in the astonishing healing powers of deep money work, compassionate un-shaming, and dark chocolate. As a Financial Therapist, Mentor Coach, and Mama-preneur, Bari has guided thousands of people to new, empowered, and refreshingly honest relationships with money. Her nurturing style is inspired by her Masters studies in Somatic Psychology at Naropa University and over two decades of work in body-centered therapy. She is the creator of The Art of Money, a year-long money school weaving together personal, couple, and entrepreneurial money teachings. To learn more about Bari and her Art of Money program (now open for a short time), visit http://baritessler.com.
And while you’re there, check out the Art of Money Roadshow: a mini-teaching-travel-documentary, with live(ish) episodes throughout the month of January. It’s chock-full of teachings about money and life, starring expert Guest Teachers and dear members of Bari’s Art of Money community.