My New End of the Year Ritual & What I Discovered to be the #1 Game Changer in my Life & Business this Year

endofyearHave you ever felt like you were on autopilot in some areas of your life or your business?

Basically you just move through the motions day to day, and at the end, you feel like you haven’t gotten enough done.

Or you have so many things unfinished that you feel overwhelmed with where to start again.

Well, you are not alone, and today’s post is focused on what you can do to shift this and begin to feel like yourself again.

First, acknowledge yourself for doing a good job, even if you think you haven’t.

At the moment, your life may be chaotic and being on auto-pilot is how you can get things done – this is normal.

Maybe your sleep is interrupted (this one has been new for me and quite the change to get used to), other people’s needs come before your own, your to-do lists have to-do lists, and saying, “YES” basically makes things easier, even when all you want to say is, “NO!”

Or have the time to feel your feet on the ground and breathe. That would be nice, right?


Yes I’m going to put in a BIG BUT here and say – what if all of this could be different?

Because it can and will take a few simple shifts on your end. The biggest one is your beliefs around how your life or business is functioning right now.

Sweet Soul, I’ll be honest with you.. I wish I could wave a magic wand. I hope you see that in some ways what I’m sharing with you today, when put into practice, can be your magic wand. Basically, it’s up to you to change the game just like I have and am constantly in the process of doing every day.

Curious to know what this life-shifting-magical-goodness is? Good!

Let’s play for a moment. Yes, play and shift your energy.

Take a deep breath, shake your body out and let a few ha, ha, ha’s out and release your need to be serious. I know it may seem silly, that’s why we call it play which is where you can let go a bit.

Now, imagine meeting your needs intentionally and being able to support those around you and your business consciously. You begin to feel resistance melt away and more joy come in, even on the hardest of days.

I know you may be shaking your head saying this is never going to happen, BUT it sounds really nice. Or maybe you’re thinking, “Hillary you have no idea what I have to deal with!”

Ok, you’re right I don’t know what you are dealing with in your life or business, but hang with me for a moment…

Even though it may sound like a dream, maybe even too ideal and impossible for you keep reading, please do, because this shift (done daily as a practice) is one of the best gifts you could give yourself and the thing that changed just about everything for me this year.

Before we get to it, let’s do a little house cleaning, shall we?

Take a moment to check in to see if you are telling yourself there is no way you can change how you are living your life at this moment, the choices you made or how you experience your job or business.

If these are not your beliefs, then ask yourself what it is right now that you are telling yourself when it comes to how you are living your life or running your business.

Being aware of your beliefs is the first step to making any lasting change. Click to tweet…

Then ask yourself what pushes you to go on autopilot or shut down? What triggers you to just  check out and go through the motions without thought? Are you aware of the triggers or actions you take that move you to shut off and go through the motions? If not, take a moment and see what comes up for you.

Being aware of your triggers will help you to release the charge and create a new story with a new outcome. Click to tweet…

This may be a bit humbling and hopefully you had an Aha! moment or even a breakthrough while answering those questions.

I know I did when I sat and asked myself these questions a few weeks ago. I decided to call off a big business project and move two others to next year. I had been on autopilot because I was attached to an outcome. The thing is, what I had planned was not fitting into how my life has changed…

So, I had to pause, then ask myself what I was attached to and if it was really serving me. The answer was a big fat NO.

My driving belief was I had to be supermom and prove to my husband I was a super wife as I and push through with business projects. When I am pushing, forcing or shoulding, I know I’m not in tune with my true self, it’s my ego.

Then I was like, “Wait a minute Hillary. Isn’t this why you designed your life as it is – to have the freedom to take time off when you want and work when you want.” I slowed down and shifted gears and started to use this filter question:

If I don’t do X will I feel a sense of relief?

When I get a “YES!” then I know I’m calling off whatever it is I thought I wanted to do.

So here is the #1 game changer in my life & business this year…

Going from living on autopilot to living deliberately.

It is not a new idea, it’s more of a rewiring and focus for how I approach everything. And it’s not perfect, I do my best and it’s for mostly everything. It’s a simple idea and a shift in awareness.

Let it be on your own terms and keep your eyes on what matters most for you and let the rest go. Basically, trim the fat and live lean. Let’s unpack the world of the word deliberate.

Deliberate: done consciously and intentionally.

Some of the synonyms are: intentional, conscious, purposeful, thoughtful, intended, purposeful, and knowing.

Are you as turned on by this word as I am? To me, living deliberately is the key to happiness.

Here are the 3 things I did deliberately that rocked in 2014…

  1. Got pregnant and birthed my baby boy at 42.
  2. Became debt free.
  3. Launched and lead the second year of my coaching program The Art of Becoming a Coach with a rocking telesummit, Breakthrough to Coaching Experience.

What are the 3 things you did deliberately this year that rocked?

Know this…

Even with living deliberately or consciously there will be surprises, things will come up, you will be put on the spot to make a decision and do the best you can. Even when you think something will work or make you happy, you may find this is not so.

The good news is you only know when you are on the other side. Then you can pivot and be intentional to support your values as well as what is most important to you.

Now that I am a mama, my life is shifting, re-calibrating and living deliberately is my focus. This means calling off something that does not fit into how I designed my life and being honest with myself.

What if you did it for the next 5 days to see what shift or change you can create in your life and business – and in the lives of those you love and work with?

Are you ready for the shift from autopilot to living deliberately challenge?

Sweet Soul, this is your official invitation to play with me and start taking baby steps to living your deliberately (in your life and business) for the next 5 days, as 2014 comes to a close.

This challenge is super simple, but can make a huge difference for you in the new year.

Here’s how to play…

You can focus the next 5 days on one area or you can pick 5 areas where you want to be more deliberate. It could be with your children, partner, self, animals, your team, your clients, your creative time, even your errands.

Here are some prompts you can use each day to bring more presence into your life and business and begin to live more deliberately:

Day one: What is your one area you’d like to be more conscious in your life and business?
Day two: What is your intention, theme or word for 2015 to support you to be more deliberate in the area you chose?
Day three: What habit or thought are you leaving behind in 2014 to help you move towards being more conscious in this area?
Day four: What’s one activity that embodies your intention, theme or word that you can start doing to support you being more deliberate?
Day five: Now, give yourself permission to do this one thing daily throughout 2015…
Use this permission statement: “I give myself permission to create my life and business more deliberately in 2015.”

 Bonus day: How will you celebrate yourself now for being more deliberate and bring this into every day of 2015?

Remember, the result we’re going for here is to get off autopilot and start taking deliberate action. These simple prompts are just suggestions for how you can take action to get started. Use what feels good for you.

Let’s get this party started…

First, take a moment to do a little inventory and recognize where in your life you have been operating on autopilot and want to shake things up to live more consciously.

Then, tell me what it is in the comments below! It could be something from the example above, or something totally unique to you – you choose! If you plan to participate in the challenge, share that, too!

Know anyone who would love to make this shift? Share this post with them so together we can end 2014 consciously and intentionally, and ready to rock 2015 in a new way!

THANK YOU, Sweet Soul, from the bottom of my heart for being part of this community, sharing, commenting and adding more joy to my life even if we have not personally connected.

It is my focus for the rest of this year and in 2015 to be even more deliberate with you, my community.






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