How to Overcome Your Own Limiting Beliefs to Help Others

limiting-beliefs-4-3-16Doubt is painful.

Doubt is more than painful, it’s paralyzing.

Not believing in yourself when it comes to your purpose or calling sucks.

Especially when you know in your cells you’re here to do more.

And that more is an ache in every part of your being saying you’re here to help others on their path as a coach, mentor, healer, or fill in the blank, because we’re all here to help in one way or another.

I’m curious to know…

When you are alone, listening to your soul, do you get a full body YES! because you know you’re here to do this work?

What knocks you off the track of that YES?

Do you get afraid that you don’t know everything? Do you think you’ll be called a fake or fraud?

Do you feel you won’t be able to help anyone because you still have stuff to sort out for yourself?

I’d love to know if it’s…

Your voice?

Or is it someone else’s?

Take a moment to check in. Ask yourself and see what comes up for you.

Love and forgive the part of you that feels doubt. Click to tweet…

Spoiler alert: They are not real. You don’t have to believe them.

They feel real because it’s loud. So loud it drowns out your truth.

So loud and convincing they get your attention so you ignore any positive feedback you get.

I hear this all the time from my clients who get great feedback from clients, paid and beta, and there is always one person who decides to give you a whole barrel of negative feedback.

What is it they say, one bad apple ruins the bunch?

It doesn’t have to, you are in control.

I know there are people out there who get off on invalidating because they think it will motivate you.

Or it gives them some sense of satisfaction to see you shrink. Or it helps them to feel significant.

To me, that’s not cool. It’s their crap, not yours, and when it happens it stings.

Don’t believe the hype – YES, what others tell us is just hype.

What can help you here is to ask yourself why you care what they say and ALWAYS consider the source of who is saying it and why.   

I know this is easier said than done, and hopefully this post will help you to shine some more  light on what those limiting beliefs are for you. Then you can let them go and you can get out there to learn, help others, and make a difference in the world.

Ask yourself what is your #1 limiting belief around helping others as a coach.

Once you got that, move on so you can let it go, Sweet Soul.

Then ask yourself, when did I first start to believe this?

How old was I when it happened?

Do I still need to hold onto this?

If I keep it, what is it helping me with?

If I keep it, who is right?

When I let it go, what will change?

When I let it go, what will be true for me?

When I let it go, what is my truth?

Permission Statement time…

“I give myself permission to release the need to hold onto any outdated beliefs I have about myself when it comes to helping others. I allow myself to believe in myself and honor my soul’s purpose to help others. It’s safe for me to not know everything. I am doing a good job at tapping into my intuition and being of service. Every day I’m getting better and better at being a good coach. I’m thankful for everyone I get to help. And so it is…”

Say your Permission Statement every day out loud with enthusiasm while looking in the mirror. (Even if you feel awkward, it will work. I’ve had clients not into this at first who use it, and they were amazed at how it shifted them.)

This process hopefully will leave you feeling a bit better.

Here’s one more tip a coach told me years ago…

To help with this, create a file that has all positive feedback. This included emails, notes, cards and client testimonials. If you don’t have those yet, don’t worry, I know you most likely have emails from people who have said you rock for something.

You get to read this when you’re feeling down, or hit a wall or a bump in the road, so you can remind yourself that you are amazing.

BONUS CHALLENGE!

I’ve seen doubt hold back so many amazing souls from following their calling. I’m making it my personal goal to help as many people as I can to step out of doubt and own their truth!

I challenge YOU to take action now by posting a comment below, answering the following questions…

What was your #1 takeaway from this post?

Did you find if your limiting belief was your voice, or someone else’s?

And if you have any ways you overcome your own limiting beliefs to help others, we’d love to hear that, too.

And to reward you for taking ACTION, I’ll be giving away a (free) access code for the Clifton StrengthsFinder Assessment.

Clifton StrengthsFinder results give you a way to discuss and develop your unique combination of skills, talents, and knowledge – also known as strengths. And knowing your strengths is a great way to to get out of doubt and feeling like a fraud. (Winner will be selected randomly.)

Now, take a stand for your soul and share in the comments!

I can’t wait to read your response and connect with you more.

 

Your Angel of Fire,

hillarysig

 

 

 

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