The #1 Ingredient Needed To Build Your Self Confidence

A few weeks back my husband asked me which movie I wanted to watch. It was either The Fighter or The King’s Speech. He said, “one is a story of the underdog and the other is a triumph of the spirit.” Both appeared to be compelling stories that seemed totally different to me at first.

After watching them both, I began to see the two main characters as the same man. It was like they were shadows of one another. One was from what you could call ‘white trash’ (no offense) and the other royalty. See, when we get down to the basics of being human we are the more the same than different.

Because I have been taught by one of my teachers Dr. Douglas Brooks to see that we are all the characters in the story, it opens new ways to see our own potential. These movies are really about overcoming our fears and fulfilling our potential. What is challenging is that we are taken over by our fear and blinded to what has always been there for us to be.

And there was one ingredient that really made those characters become who they really were meant to be. Can you guess what that is?

How can we learn from these characters and see ourselves?  That’s the question to ask. Ultimately that’s the gift,  to see what we can learn for ourselves.

Here’s my breakdown:

1. Both characters felt inferior to their older brothers.
2. They lived in the shadow and felt they were not good enough.
3. They were both abused, had low self esteem and little to no confidence.
3. Every time they did something, they felt like a failure.
4. When they were around their brothers or family, they were like Superman near Kryptonite. (this was super painful for me to watch.)
5. They both wanted freedom but couldn’t use the same way of thinking to get out of the problem.
6. They were both made fun of from their families as not being as good as the older brother.
7. They were both stuck in the person they were told to be.
8. They both felt they were free until they were not and thought about quitting.

What did they have that helped them create a strong foundation to become the men they were meant to be?

1. They both had women who loved them and believed in them. (you can have a man or women to do this)
2. They began to go outside their comfort zone (painful as it was) and try on new ways of being.
3. They had mentors help them who did not let them get away with their usual crap.
4. They learned to speak up (yes, more for The King) for what they wanted.
5. They took steps to change their environment, mental + physical.
6. They went out in search of help even when they were not sure if it would aid them.
7. They received support from a healthier place that kept them from giving up.
8. They began to create a stable foundation to get past the biggest challenge of their life and eventually triumphed.

Did you figure out the one ingredient? Foundation = Eco-system. They created a new circle of support and pulled the weeds from inside to become the men they were meant to be so they could grow into the person they were meant to be.

Watching these movies showed me how I’m just like them. I feel the same way some days and had to make the same changes and still continue to do so now.  It was hard to watch The Fighter for me since I grew up around drugs and that sort of environment, but eventually I changed my environment. I stayed away from family who were toxic and challenged myself to do what I was afraid of to realize who I was to become.

This was not easy nor did my friends understand how I could do such a thing, but I knew it had to happen to become who I wanted to be, not who my surroundings were dictating I was to be.
Can you relate? Do you feel you could make your foundation stronger to go for what you really want? Do you feel that circumstances are in your way of your health, wellness or happiness?

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